49.Arguments

Q1 Is it easier for you to have arguments with your family or with your friends?

Ans- It's definitely easier for me to argue with my family. I mean, with them, there's this sense of safety. Like, no matter how big the fight is, we'll still talk the next day, we'll still have dinner together. That kind of security makes it easier to speak up or get into a disagreement, because I know the relationship won't fall apart over one argument. There's history there. We've had good moments, bad moments, and everything in between, so a little argument doesn't really shake things. And I guess I don't filter myself as much around them. I just say what's on my mind, even if it comes out a bit harsh. That makes arguments more likely to happen, but also easier to move past. With friends, I'd probably hold back more because I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings or make things awkward. But with family, it feels more okay to just be real even if that sometimes means arguing.

Q2 When two people have an argument, do you think they should find a third party to ask for advice?

Ans- Honestly, I don't think it's always necessary. A lot of the time, it's better to just talk things through directly, especially if it's something personal. If you bring someone else in too early, it can feel like you're making a big deal out of something small, or like you're trying to get backup. And sometimes the third person doesn't even know the full story, so their advice might not actually help. But there are moments when having someone neutral really makes a difference. Like, if the same argument keeps coming up over and over and you're just going in circles. That's when an outside opinion might help you see what you're missing. Or if things get really emotional and you're both too upset to listen properly, a third person can kind of slow things down and help you focus on what really matters. Also, sometimes it's just easier to open up when there's someone else there, especially if that person is someone both sides trust. They can keep things calm and make sure everyone actually gets heard. So yeah, I don't think every little disagreement needs outside help, but in tougher situations, it can really help move things forward and stop things from getting worse.

Q3 Do you think people should change the way they think when having arguments?

Ans- Yes, I think people should try to change the way they think during arguments... or at least shift their mindset a little. A lot of the time, people go into arguments just trying to prove they're right, instead of actually trying to understand the other side. And that never really leads anywhere. If people could pause and think, 'Okay, this isn't a personal attack. It's just a disagreement,' they'd stay calmer. It also helps if people actually listen instead of just waiting for their turn to speak. Arguments go a lot better that way. And sometimes, people need to ask themselves, 'Is this really worth getting worked up over?' because not every disagreement needs to turn into a big drama. It's not always easy to stay calm in the heat of the moment, but even making a small effort to think differently can stop things from getting out of hand.

Q4 Is the argument important?

Ans- No doubt it is, as arguing can save the relationship instead of destroying it as many people think. It's really beneficial to relationships as, on the one hand, it allows people to communicate their needs to their partner and, on the other hand, helps people get to know the other side better. Also, the argument helps people figure out what the real issue is because sometimes the only way to understand it is by learning more about both sides of the argument in the process. So I would say the argument is very important as it is a healthy way of evolution in relationships, I think.

Q5 What arguments occur between family members?

Ans- Oh, the most common reasons for family arguments concern money and financial hardships, I think, from fighting over inheritance and disagreeing about who will pay for ageing parents or family events to where to find money to make ends meet. Another popular reason for family arguments is children and everything that concerns them, to be more precise, I mean such issues as ways of raising the children, kids' education issues, a circle of children's friends and so on. And, of course, there are arguments about vacations, quality time, different needs and wishes and even jealousy in a relationship.

Q6 What personal qualities should lawyers have?

Q7 What makes a good lawyer?

Ans- Well, in my opinion, in order to be a successful lawyer, a person should have lots of personal traits. First of all, a good lawyer must be confident. I'm sure that on many occasions it is confidence that helps lawyers to speak persuasively and win cases. Secondly, a good lawyer must be skeptical. I think that positive skepticism fuels critical thinking and encourages lawyers to get a deeper understanding of events or things. Also, a lawyer should be creative 'cause the best solution is not always the most obvious, and in order to outmanoeuvre your challenger it is often necessary to think outside the box. Of course, there are many other important personal qualities such as patience, compassion for clients, perseverance and empathy. All these traits help lawyers to complete the work that is necessary to drive the case to a successful finish.